When You’re Not the Only One . . .

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When You’re Not the Only One in Your Family with a Dream
by Gina Conroy

I’ve been thinking a lot about my personal goals, my children’s dreams, and what I want my family to look like. Unfortunately, all three are often in conflict with one another at different times.

I knew from a young age that I wanted to write, and I’ve never doubted the calling, though I’ve struggled often with finding the time to pursue my dreams. I started my first novel right after I got married, then I had my first son and writing took a back seat to the demands of mothering.

I didn’t know there were writing support groups like ACFW, and I didn’t have writing friends to encourage me. I didn’t know I could write and raise children like so many do now, though in a way I’m glad I didn’t know. It allowed me to focus on my children and hold on to my dreams, knowing that one day my chance would come. So I set aside my WIP for ten years or so, had three more babies and did occasional magazine work. But my heart wanted to return to fiction.

I thought when my fourth child was two that it was finally time to start working on my own dreams of being published. Little did I know was that at the very same time God was calling me to homeschool.

What ensued there after was this stressed out mom trying to learn how to homeschool, be a good mother and write. Unfortunately, I felt like a failure on all three fronts at one time or another, somehow getting off balance at different times until my priorities became so out of whack that I had to sacrifice my writing and dreams for a season. The grieving process was real and painful. But in that grief Writer…Interrupted was birthed, and I started to interview other moms who seemed to do it all.

I grew as a mom and writer.

The other day I read something from Mary M. Byers that resonated with me.

“When you say yes to something in your life, you automatically say no to something else.”

I wish I would’ve understood that sooner. Then maybe I wouldn’t have been so anxious to move on to the next stage of my life and career. Maybe I would’ve savored each moment just a little longer.

Now that my kids are older and have dreams of their own, I’m trying to balance theirs with mine. It’s a never ending learning curve as I adjust and evaluate just how much dream pursuit this family can handle. How much I can handle and do before I burn out.

Will there be some regrets and what ifs? Probably, but if I remember that when I’m saying NO to the pursuit of someone’s dream (including my own,) I just might be saying YES to something more important!

What are you saying YES to today? And what are you willing to wait for?

Gina Conroy is president and founder of Writer…Interrupted where she mentors busy writers. Knowing how difficult it is to raise a family as well as a career, she chronicles her triumphs and trials on Defying Gravity, hoping to encourage those on a similar path. She is represented by Chip MacGregor of MacGregor Literary, and her first novella, Buried Deception, in the Cherry Blossom Capers Collection, releases from Barbour Publishing in January 2012. Gina loves to connect with readers on Facebook and Twitter

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Comments 2

  1. Stacey

    Thank you for writing these words. I needed to read them today. I love the quote from Mary Byers. That is something I need to print and post on my kitchen window over the sink and probably on every mirror in my house. 🙂

  2. Jackie

    “Maybe I would’ve savored each moment just a little longer.”

    This comment touched me the most. It certainly spoke volumes to me! We are a homeschooling family. My DD is 14. Time is flying so quickly. I think I get so tangled up in my own daily agenda, that I forget to stop and enjoy my daughter just a little extra each day. Your comment brought that idea back into focus for me.

    When you talked about God calling you to homeschool, I could also identify with that. I wish I’d had someone to help me when I got started. The other day I came across a great e-book for new homeschoolers the other day. It was written by homeschoolers for homeschoolers. How To Homeschool: A Book For Families New to Homeschooling It is comprehensive without being overwhelming. Maybe it will help others just starting out. 🙂

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